Deviant Discussions is a kink and BDSM podcast featuring three kinksters who live the lifestyle every day.
They talk about their experiences across a number of years from different perspectives. If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like being kinky, and why we kink the way we do, this is the podcast for you.
Deviant Discussions Season Three:
Episode 10 | The Exhibitionist
It's the final episode of Season Three! We're talking body parts. What are the body parts that turn you on? Do you have a specific fetish? Have you struggled with a partner's body part fetish?
Episode 09 | When Things Go Wrong
The team talk about the negative experiences - Injuries, emotional tolls, violated agreements, abuse. It's important to know how to overcome the truly negative experiences within kink and BDSM - not just the comical experiences.
Episode 08 | Blurred Lines: CNC
What is CNC? What is it not? How can the topic of wanting to do CNC be broached? Why should you do it (if you want to), and what should you be mindful of with this risky kink activity?
Episode 07 | Triggered
What is a trigger? Why do we have them? Do they follow a set format? What can you do if you've triggered your partner? What can you do if you realize you've been unexpectedly triggered?
Episode 06 | In My Blood: STD Stigmas
We talk about the importance of discussing sexual health with potential partners, STD/STI testing, and the statistics of sexually transmitted infections and diseases.
Episode 05 | Rocketman: Headspaces
Subspace, Domspace, Topspace, Bottomspace... What are each of these spaces? How does one reach it? Is it a good thing? What if you don't reach it? How does it feel? Is it different for different people? Learn more about headspaces of kink.
Episode 04 | Shame On Me: Overcoming The Shame Of Being Kinky
Believe it or not, kinksters feel shame about their kinks, even without being directly shamed for it. We talk about our struggles, the things that help deal with feelings of shame or inadequacy related to our kinks, and ask why we shame ourselves for things that come naturally.
Episode 03 | Safety Dance: Kink Safety
Lots of things are risky in kinky play: STDs, Rope/Implements, Safe words, etc. What do you need to be mindful of in general, and what steps should you take if you don't feel safe?
Episode 02 | Happiness In Slavery: Submission
Part of our "What's It Like Being..?" series, the team explore what it's means being submissive: How it feels, the pros and cons, and why it fulfils a part of us nothing else can.
Episode 01 | Mean: Dominant Vs Domineering
There's a big difference between being Dominant and being Domineering. A bully does not make a Dom. So what are some of the things you should look out for as red flags and warning signs?
Season Two:
E10 | One Time (At Kink Kamp)
In the last episode of Season Two, the Deviant Discussions team discuss the kind of kinky events out there and what their personal experiences have been - including behaviour, etiquette, and a few surprises along the way!
E09 | Relax: The Butt Stuff
Anal sex, figging, rimming, and all manner of other fun goes into anal play. As part of our seasonal Deviant Discussions Fetish feature, the team talk about nothing but butt in the penultimate season two episode.
E08 | Shame On You
Have you experienced kink shaming? We have. And we're not afraid to talk about it. It's a prevalent issue in the kink world, and one that shouldn't even exist. Kinksters might say your kink is not my kink (and that's OK), but do we really practice what we preach?
E07 | Forever Young
Curious about DDlg and the plethora of Caregiver/little dynamics? As part of our What's It Like Being series, the Deviant Discussions team interview GlassGirl about how she interacts as a little, what it means, what misconceptions there are, and how to best explore DDlg and CG/l dynamics.
E06 | I Want To Break Free: Coming Out Kinky
Are you out and proud as a kinkster? The team discuss what to expect if you're planning on coming out, and ideas on how to do it. Is it safer to be out than outed?
E05 | Hurt Vs Harm
What's the difference between 'hurt' and 'harm' in BDSM and kink? With so many kinky activities designed to hurt, where is the line between consensual kink and malice? Experiences of kinky hurt and dangerous harm, and why it's so important to understand the difference - what's the difference to you?
E04 | Smack My Bitch Up
One of the common activities in BDSM is spanking. It's almost universal. Getting down with impact play - specifically spanking - the Deviant Discussions team talk about what makes ass, clit, and tit spanking a thing, how it feels, and why they like (or vehemently dislike) it.
E03 | Spice Up Your (Sex) Life
Nobody likes boring bedroom antics - How do you spice things up? How did you arrive at the kinky front door, or knock on someone else's? The Deviant Discussions team cover asparagus watersports, jiggle boob dances, backhanders during blowjobs, and roleplay.
E02 | In The End
Nobody talks about what happens after the end of a dynamic. If aftercare is important following a scene, why isn't it more important after a relationship? We talk about how their kink identity has been challenged by break-ups and the grief of lost dynamics.
E01 | Preaching To The Perverted
Teddy bears, ladles, and trailer hitches - oh my! With so many opportunities to pervert everyday objects, will kink ever become the norm? The new team of Deviant Discussions talk about kink in the media, corrupting vanillas, and what everyday utensils they've turned into perverted kinky toys.
Season One:
E10 | Challenges In Long Term Dynamics
Old Relationship Energy, New Relationship Energy, leniency, cheating... The challenges in long-term kink and BDSM dynamics aren't all that different to a vanilla relationship, so the kinksters talk about their experiences and how they face difficulties.
E09 | Discipline
What is Discipline in the world of BDSM? What does it mean to us? Why do people like it? What's it used for? Some dynamics rely heavily on discipline; other kinky dynamics don't involve it at all - Is it all punishment, or can it be funishment?
E08 | Kinky Toy Time
What kind of toys do you like to include in your kinky play? This episode explores our favorite kinky toys and tools that make for a fun time; paddles, floggers, canes, crops, whips, you name it!
E07 | Bisexual & Kinky
Part of the ‘What’s It Like To Be…’ series, this episode focuses on bisexuality in and out of BDSM. The kinksters discuss the trials and tribulations of their sexual identity in today’s society, as well as involvement with varied sexualities and genders in relationships.
E06 | BDSM Safewords
Safewords are a key component of BDSM dynamics - How do you know when, or how, to let your partner know enough is enough? Is there ever a time when a safeword is a gesture? Are there dynamics without a safeword?
E05 | Expect The Unexpected
We all have one or two stories that are too funny not to share, right? In this episode, we cover off what nobody ever warns you about with the distinctly unsexy side of kink. If there’s one message to take away from this podcast - it’s that s**t happens!
E04 | Polyamory
The team discuss some of the ins and outs of what being poly does and doesn’t mean, how to deal with the issues of jealousy that can arise, as well as some of the other key terms often linked to poly.
E03 | One Twue Way
It's a common jibe in the kink community about "twueism", but what is it, and where does it come from? Is there a 'true' way to do kink? The team discuss how they each do what they do, and whether that’s it any more or less valid than anybody else.
E02 | D/s: It’s Not What It Looks Like
The crew discuss some of the preconceptions and misconceptions that surround the world of D/s, especially in the media. How much is fictional fantasy, and how much is real? We try and address what to expect in dynamics, and what is unrealistic.
E01 | Kink Normality
What makes kinky sex kinky? Is there a difference between normal sex and not-so-normal sex? In this episode, we discuss what makes sex particularly kinky for us, and whether kink has to be sexual at all.
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