Getting Started in Kink & BDSM

While there's a lot of overlap between the two, here's a simple breakdown of what's different about the terms.

There are two common types of breath play - do you know what they are?

Learn about the different types of orgasm control; from too many to too few!

Explore D/s dynamics, and the Dominants and submissives that call it their kink.

S&M doesn't have to be a pain in the... Oh, wait. That's kind of the point.

Breakups are never easy. They can be even harder when they involve a dynamic.

Learn about the different roles, labels, and honorifics commonly found in BDSM.

A brief introduction to the world of BDSM and what it is, and the acronym's meaning.

A brief exploration of what kink means, where it comes from, and how to explore it.

In reality, BDSM and kink are not free of predators and dangerous situations. Many trauma survivors find comfort in knowing they aren't alone.

We offer some do’s and don’t for your first visit to a public kink and BDSM dungeon.

One of the biggest misconceptions of BDSM is that it’s an excuse to abuse someone else. Nothing could be further from the truth.

BDSM contracts can be a powerful tool for a power dynamic. But what exactly are they?

Knowing the differences between these key terms can help you define what you want out of a power dynamic.

Why play on only one side of the slash when you can explore both?

STIs and STDs are more common - and treatable - than you think.

Doxing is unfortunately common; learn how to deal with it if it happens to you.

What is “drop”? It happens to all sides of the slash - be prepared for it.

Opening up about your being poly isn’t easy, but this guide might help.

Ethics and morality in kink aren’t black and white - they’re subjective.

Saying no doesn’t need to be daunting - it’s important.

What don't you know about the human body and reproductive system?

Learning the ropes of bondage is critical to be a safe rope player.

How do you go about making the perfect recipe for your relationship?

What is it, and what’s the difference between funishment and punishment?

Having a vanilla partner doesn't excuse cheating - be honest before exploring kink.

Learn about the different types of space and the causes.

Kink-shaming is an unfortunate occurrence, but here are some ways to deal with it.

What is polyamory, and how do you know if it's for you?

Mentors and guides can be great resources, but look out for red flags and green flags.