“How To Be Kinky”
Spoiler alert: There is no right answer for “How to be kinky”. But there are many ways to be kinky.
Being kinky is an entirely subjective topic - how you do kink is only how you do it. Everyone in the lifestyle has their own definition of how they’re kinky, and how they do it.
The question of how to be kinky can include anything from the activities someone chooses to engage in, the kind of kink lifestyle they lead and how often, and whether or not they label themselves a particular role. There are no right or wrong answers - nobody should tell you how you should be doing something to make it kinky, and nobody is entitled to shame you for the kinks and fetishes you have.
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