Orgasm Control & Chastity
Orgasm control is a form of power exchange designed to manage and manipulate the timing and intensity of orgasms.
Methods might include tease and denial, edging (not to be confused with edge play), delayed or forced orgasms, or mental conditioning. It's often incorporated into scenes due to the intense power dynamics and psychological aspects involved.
For an added layer of excitement, some practitioners engage in orgasm control in semi-public or discreet public settings. This might involve using remote-controlled toys in public places to add an element of risk and exhibitionism to the experience. Sex toys are common in orgasm control, whether it’s vibrators, dildos, chastity devices, or remote-controlled toys.
Types of Orgasm Control
Forced orgasms are when an s-type is made to climax repeatedly, sometimes beyond their comfort zone to the point of overstimulation. This can be a form of both pleasure and torment. Although the initial orgasms may be pleasurable, continued stimulation can become overwhelming or even painful.
Delayed orgasms involve prolonging sexual stimulation over extended periods before allowing climax. This can be part of a single scene, or extend over days or weeks. This is also known as edging (with release). The cycle of buildup and denial may heighten sexual tension and anticipation, and the delayed release is often a more powerful and satisfying orgasm.
Orgasm denial is often used in power exchanges and deliberately prevents an individual from reaching climax. Common methods include edging or chastity, to emphasise the D-type’s control over the s-type’s body and pleasure, deepening the power exchange. The one in control has the power to grant or withhold pleasure, which can be arousing for both parties. For the one being denied, it can enhance feelings of submission and dependence, and increase the emotional and physical intensity of the experience. Sadism might also feature through verbal teasing, physical stimulation, or a combination of both.
Outside of these common forms of orgasm control, some D-types might set a specific number of orgasms their partner is allowed over a certain period (e.g., one orgasm a week or per month), or train their partner to only experience sexual release in response to their cues. This mental conditioning can reach a point where the s-type learns to only orgasm when given explicit permission or under certain set conditions, but it does take time.
This type of restriction can in turn intensify the s-type’s desire and make each orgasm more meaningful and rewarding, and can also deepen the psychological bond between partners. However, it can also be dangerous and cause long-term mental health issues if the conditioning becomes too deeply ingrained.
Aftercare is crucial in orgasm control, especially after intense denial, repeated forced orgasms, or long periods of mental conditioning.
Chastity & Keyholding
Chastity is a form of preventing the ability to masturbate and/or orgasm, whether it’s mentally or physically. If you have a chastity fetish, or you enjoy being teased with sexy photos or dirty talk whilst unable to touch yourself, you might enjoy having a Keyholder in the mix. As the name implies, Keyholders hold the literal key to a chastity cage or belt.
For many Keyholders, this type of control feeds the heady feeling that comes with being a D-type. Sadists can also revel in teasing to the point that their consensual partner is begging to orgasm.
If this kind of orgasm control arouses you, a plethora of chastity belts and chastity cages are available in all shapes and sizes, and you might get a kick out of being part of “Locktober”, which is a common chastity challenge that can be enjoyed with a partner or solo.
