Mitigating Risk in Wax Play
Wax play is a type of sensation play that involves one person dripping candle wax onto another, or dripping it on themselves.
Common Risks of Wax Play:
Skin Burns
Uncontrollable spread of fire
Key requirements of Wax Play:
Fire extinguisher
First aid kit, including burn gel
Fire retardant coverings for furnishings
Moisturiser/lotion for before and after play
Things to Consider During Wax Play:
Prepare the area of your body prior to playing
Bottoms should moisturise their skin prior to engaging in this activity. It’s a good idea to also shave to avoid hair being pulled as the wax is removed.
Avoid sensitive skin and areas prone to reactions
Although the right wax used in BDSM scenes shouldn’t cause burns or reactions, areas with existing skin conditions like eczema or psoriasis, skin with open wounds, or new tattoos may become inflamed or burn more easily. Check in with your partner before you start to ensure you’re both aware of any areas of the skin that should be avoided for physical safety, in addition to negotiation on the areas that are off-limits for personal reasons.
Check for potential fire hazards around the playspace
Candles may seem relatively innocuous, but fire is unpredictable in any form. Survey the area where the scene will take place and ensure that nothing flammable is nearby. Keep an eye on all lit candles, and have a fire extinguisher or bucket of water handy in the event fire starts to spread.
Have a plan for removing the wax before you start
Hardened wax can clog your drain, so have a plan for how to remove as much as possible before the scene ends, so that clean-up after the scene is as easy as possible. Having a loofa or other dull tool on hand can help, or you may wish to incorporate knife play into the scene if your partner is willing. Some partners may opt to use wooden implements that are carved into knives instead of actual knives, but always discuss introducing knife play before you start the wax play scene.
Read the ingredients on the candles
Candles made from beeswax will burn the skin. Instead, opt for shea butter or soy for a more sensual experience, and paraffin if you want to add a bit more pain. Regardless of which you choose, the safest option is to purchase candles that are specifically made for wax play. You can find these in most reputable BDSM-friendly online or in-person stores.
Keep lit candles at least 8-10 inches from the bottom’s skin
Bringing lit candles too close will not allow for the wax to cool enough before it hits the skin. The closer you bring the candle to the bottom’s skin, the hotter and more painful the experience will be. Tops should be mindful of their bottom’s pain tolerance throughout.
Have a safe place to put lit candles in between pouring wax
You may have already checked the play space for fire hazards, but one rogue whisper of wind on a curtain can knock a lit candle, or catch fire. Keep candle holders in a clear area and ensure you’ve placed the candle safely before letting your attention wander to the next step in the scene.
Be mindful of flammable perfumes and colognes
Whilst it’s important to moisturise the areas of the body you intend on introducing to wax play, be mindful of the use of flammable perfumes and colognes around candles, as fire can inadvertently spread, especially if the Top is moving the flame too close to the skin.
These considerations are not designed to be advice on how to play safely - they are things to think about prior to engaging in dangerous forms of play.
No matter the precautions you take in this kind of activity, you cannot guarantee the safety of those involved. Approach this form of play with extreme caution.
