Is Kink A Sexual Aid?
For those who enjoy sex, a healthy sex life is often an indicator of a strong relationship. It’s possible you've already introduced kink to your sex life without even realising it.
What is kinky sex?
It's not as uncommon as you might think, and whilst some might snub the idea of kink as a sexual aid, it absolutely can be.
Kinky sex isn't all that kinky anymore...
In 2014, the Journal of Sexual Medicine found 65% women and 53% of men in Canada fantasized about being sexually dominated.
In 2017, the same journal reported almost half the Belgian population had performed at least one BDSM- related activity.
By 2018, Justin Lehmiller's research revealed 96% of women and 93% of American men had at least fantasized about BDSM.
Being kinky isn't just about being serious and steadfast on the how and why of “What It Is That We Do” - for a lot of people, it's about finding their centre, and enjoying the experience of doing so.
Should I try kink to spice up my sex life?
Kink is more than "just" a sexual aid; the benefits of kink and BDSM are widely acknowledged.
A 2013 Journal of Sexual Medicine study found that both dominant and submissive practitioners of BDSM were less neurotic, more extroverted and conscientious, more open to new experiences, and less rejection-sensitive. They also had higher subjective well-being, suggesting kinky sex helps you gain confidence.
In 2009, a study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found couples engaging in consensual sadomasochistic activities had lower levels of cortisol (the stress hormone), as well as reporting greater intimacy and relationship closeness after their play.
There's a reason some kinksters compare their elevated state of mind during and after scenes to a runner's high.
Kink isn't such a taboo topic anymore - this website alone is testament to the far and wide reach of kink and BDSM - but the level to which you explore kink is your choice.
How can I introduce kinky sex to my partner?
You can spice things up in the bedroom more easily than you think:
Locking your partner up in furry handcuffs is Bondage.
Using a flyswatter to playfully smack your partner's ass is Impact Play.
A blowjob behind the restaurant on date night is sex-in-public.
Telling your partner not to cum until you're ready is orgasm control.
So whilst respect should be shown to those that abide by their roles within their kinky lifestyle, there’s nothing wrong with openly declaring that your kinky sex is just for the bedroom, or just for the weekend, or just something you'd like to try.
Is kinky sex better than ‘normal’ sex?
If tying your husband up with a pair of your stockings enables you to enjoy a richer sex life, great!
If following your wife around with a clipboard to score her efforts for housework makes you both laugh and fall into bed for mind-blowing sex, good on you!
Kink is what kinksters do because it fulfills something within us that can't be sought elsewhere.
How you choose to incorporate it into your life is completely up to you.
Why you choose to incorporate it isn't any different.
“Make love when you can. It’s good for you.”
