Getting Started in Kink & BDSM

Getting started in kink and BDSM may seem daunting, but it’s easier than you might think. Our comprehensive beginner's guide provides valuable insights for newcomers and veterans alike, helping you navigate this exciting lifestyle while prioritising safety and understanding the core principles of consent.

Discover the essential cornerstones of kink and BDSM, including consent, boundaries, communication, and trust. By familiarising yourself with these foundations, you can confidently explore your kinky side while creating a safer environment for all. Take the first steps into this exhilarating world, empowering yourself to embark on a safe and fulfilling journey of self-discovery and exploration.

Browse our Kink Handbook below, or use the quick links to find a topic of interest!

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Dealing With Breakups in Kink
Dealing With Breakups in Kink

Breakups are never easy. They can be even harder when they involve a dynamic.

BDSM Roles, Labels & Honorifics
BDSM Roles, Labels & Honorifics

Learn about the different roles, labels, and honorifics commonly found in BDSM.

The Difference Between Kink & Fetish
The Difference Between Kink & Fetish

While there's a lot of overlap between the two, here's a simple breakdown of what's different about the terms.

What Is BDSM?
What Is BDSM?

A brief introduction to the world of BDSM, and the acronym's meaning.

What Is Kink?
What Is Kink?

A brief exploration of what kink means, where it comes from, and how to explore it.

When You Need Help
When You Need Help

In reality, BDSM and kink are not free of predators and dangerous situations. Many trauma survivors find comfort in knowing they aren't alone.

Visiting Your First Kink Dungeon
Visiting Your First Kink Dungeon

We offer some do’s and don’t for your first visit to a public kink and BDSM dungeon.

BDSM Is Not Abuse
BDSM Is Not Abuse

One of the biggest misconceptions of BDSM is that it’s an excuse to abuse someone else. Nothing could be further from the truth.

BDSM Contracts
BDSM Contracts

BDSM contracts can be a powerful tool for a power dynamic. But what exactly are they?

Rules, Protocols, & Expectations
Rules, Protocols, & Expectations

Knowing the differences between these key terms can help you define what you want out of a power dynamic.

Flip the Switch
Flip the Switch

Why play on only one side of the slash when you can explore both?

STD & STI Information
STD & STI Information

STIs and STDs are more common - and treatable - than you think.